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When you know you married a good man.

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Have you ever been overwhelmed with bad news? I mean a rapid fire, one after the other, series of events that simply makes you gasp for air?

That happened to us last week.

Monday – Learned an old friend had died. Unexpected heart attack, he was 52.

Wednesday – Discovered one of my husband’s breakfast buddies was diagnosed with stage four leukemia. They’ve given him 3 months.

Thursday – My girlfriend who had pneumonia this spring and couldn’t seem to get over it? Was just diagnosed with a rare form of lung cancer. She’s never smoked a day in her life. And while they were doing an MRI for that… they discovered she has colon cancer as well.

My heart was ready to break, I swear I couldn’t take anymore. Then my husband came home from doing a small job for a lovely old couple in the next town. He’d been over there for a few days installing new handrails for their stairs because the husband is battling pancreatic cancer and is failing quickly. Every morning this sweet old couple goes to his doctor’s appointments and treatments holding hands, but that afternoon they went to the funeral home to make arrangements.

The next day was their 50th wedding anniversary.

My husband didn’t really know them, was just asked to do a job. But he came home, told me the situation and then went right up to our local florist and ordered a giant anniversary bouquet to be delivered to them the following day.

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They won’t see another wedding anniversary … but hopefully this unexpected gift brought them a small measure of joy.

Life is short.

Sometimes unfair.

And very often heart breaking.

Marrying a good, kind, generous man makes mine worth living and I’m thankful for him every single day.

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This morning I was driving down the road on the way to the grocery store. I was thinking about my girlfriend battling two completely different forms of cancer and wondering if she’ll be able to get through it. I had just started to tear up when this truck pulled out in front of me.

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Not sure if you can see it, but on the bottom right?

It says f*ck cancer.

I couldn’t agree more.

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36 thoughts on “When you know you married a good man.”

  1. That was a lovely and kind gesture from your husband. What a week – most especially for your friends. And I’m sure the couple will greatly appreciate the flowers.

    We never know the minute, as we say. Our lives can change in an instant. I was very lucky with my Sudden Cardiac Arrest two years ago. Though gone for 10 minutes, I made a full recovery. But I now take nothing for granted, and appreciate every little act of kindness I see.

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  4. That’s a lot to process…and you are never prepared, no matter what you think…that couple will shed tears over those flowers – a reminder of what has been and what is down a short road – but they will also be overwhelmed by his kindness…💕

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  5. I’m so sorry you’re facing all this at once. It’s so heavy and so unfair. I’m keeping you and your friends close in my heart and sending you as much love and comfort as possible.

    And fuck cancer.

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  8. That’s a lot to hear about, so yes, very saddening and so unfair.
    It’s lovely what your husband has done.

    Over the years I have known people who have died from cancer. I have two friends currently battling cancer. Neither will ever be clear of it. But they are both on sime form of treatment. And via one of these friends, they also have sad news of others they know that have not long heard they have cancer too. So unfair. And yes, fuck cancer.

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  9. Damnit…. now I’m crying at the laundromat. The dog did it.

    Another friend has been going through the same cycle. I’d usually freak out, considering I’m about to have major surgery and am aware I could unexpectedly die… but, weirdly, I’m not. My affairs are pretty much in order – including a request to post here if I die.

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  10. The most revealing side of someone you want to stick by and stand by through sickness and good times, bad times is the relationship with their children, this tells you so much. Even if you don’t agree with all their moves or he doesn’t agree, a good guy will stand up for them. As for handling cancer, so random. Sometimes it is discovered early and sometimes not. Cherish the time together.

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      1. I have watched both, my husband’s cancer, my diagnosis of cancer 1A lymphoma discovered early and treatable and being a stepmother. I met a good man and kept him around. We did. Thanks for listening.

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      3. It is and knowing the odds of meeting the right person takes some time knowing the difference and maybe making a few mistakes along the way. I never thought I would say this but I am happy to be a grandmother and happy to have two stepchildren as it made me a more rounded character..

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  13. I try to remember what my Biology teacher told me in high school: “We are dying the second we are born. We just do not know the path or the length.’ For so many to be bunched up at one time can test even the strongest faith. Cupcake and I extend our deepest sympathies to you and your husband.

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  15. ’m so very sorry about your friend(s) this is all terrible news and yes, Fuck Cancer. Sometimes life just isn’t fair and it makes us question a lot of stuff. I love that your husband is there, helping this couple right now. He’s been at the right place at the right time.

    Sending you the biggest virtual hugs I can. XOXO

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