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It’s only a minute out of your busy day…
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That’s easy.
If I die tomorrow? I don’t want a big funeral, a church service or family and friends crying over my passing.
Scatter my ashes someplace I loved, raise a glass and say, “She made me laugh.”
There isn’t nearly enough of that these days.
How about you?
What should we say after you’re gone….
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I certainly don’t want any big funeral. Why spend money on a corpse? My wishes are well known to my family. I would like to be cremated and then have my kids dump the majority of my ashes off McCafee Knob on the Appalachian Trail. Some of my ashes can be kept for putting in necklaces or bracelets if they’d like.
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I can see that. The trail would be a wonderful place for you to continue….
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I’m with you there, River. Scattered Ashes and Laughter!
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I’ve read so many obits about people who died “after a courageous battle with cancer” and various ways of describing an ascension to a christian afterlife that I told my daughter to write that I went kicking and screaming, crying like a baby.
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Ha! Throwing a tantrum till his last breath…
😉
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“She told the truth and made me laugh in the process. A good friend who will be missed.”
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Perfect.
❤️
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Back in 2010 I wrote a blog post dedicated to a friend (I won’t link to it because that’s rude) and it ended with this “So then, let my obituary read: She cooked and cleaned and filed and typed. She loved, and was loved. She smiled; made people laugh. She danced to music only she could hear. She ranted and raged and wept. She was down but never out. Not many knew her name but she lived an extraordinary life.”
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That’s wonderful.
“She loved, and was loved.”
💕
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I want my boys to have a party with family only, show pictures of me having a good time, listen to music I loved, having some beers and laughing and telling stories of their best memories of me. Like….”Remember when we had to bail mom out of jail for taking that school bus? Yeah, good times, good times.” I don’t want a funeral either, I want to be cremated. Then I want my boys to go see a Michigan football game at the Big House in Ann Arbor, but before I want them to scatter my ashes at Lake Michigan.
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That sounds perfect. But…
You stole a school bus and haven’t blogged about it?
For shame!
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“Mark made me realize just how delicious SPAM is.”
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Yeah. I’d have to be the dissenting voice at that wake…
😈
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“She was there when I needed her. With jokes. Some were actually funny.”
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Ha!
Well, you made me laugh.
😉
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No greater compliment.
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“I wonder what became of Leenda. She hasn’t posted recently.”
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Sadly that happens all too often with blog friends. We should all have a friend or family member post a final goodbye on our sites.
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I feel the same but there’s no one I trust with my login info. I’m perma logged in on my phone though, so someone could do it that way.
Back on another site, a person died and we found out through someone posting a comment with her obit. But comments don’t display here like they did there, so I don’t know whether that would work.
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I recently had a blog friend go missing. I knew he’d been ill and we had been exchanging emails. When he passed a friend sent a message to everyone on his contact list.
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That was nice!
I posted a comment for a missing friend and, happily, she posted and is in remission. Another simply disappeared… she had other things going on too so I hope she simply left blogging.
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Side note: I’d like to be cremated and have my ashes put in an EternalReef(.com) but that won’t happen unless I get off my lazy butt and write a will (or similar) and find someone to be the executor!
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That’s an interesting idea. I like it…
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The last time I checked, it was $8,000 to become an eternal reef. They let (encorage?) loved ones to embed stuff in the reef mold. It would be cool to be a surviving family member and dive to the reef later!
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I can’t imagine anything nicer than “she made me laugh.”
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It’s so much better than crying…
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“I don’t know anyone else that got away with wearing Purple and embracing it like she did plus, she was a great Mother to her animals especially the cats.
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Not just anyone can wear purple.
❤️
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She finally did lose that COVID 15. Haha.
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I once had a rabbi, a man I much admired, comment to a woman in the congregation: “He is a good man”.
Yeah… that’s how I want to be remembered. A good man.
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I don’t see any problem there.
❤️
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