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Let’s play.

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Because games are always fun.

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To be honest, nothing.

If you’re a long time reader you know my husband and I met and married in six days. He was on leave from the Marine Corps and came home to be with his family at Christmas. It was a hard time for him as the Beirut bombing was a few months before and he was deployed to the area at the time. On that horrible day he volunteered to help with the rescue efforts after a 12 hour night shift and no sleep. He took 5 bodies out of that building… some whole, some in pieces.

I’m sure all he wanted at that point was rest and relaxation. What he got was a wife.

We met. We fell in love. We got married six days later. And to be honest we would have done it sooner but we had to wait 2 days for the license.

Everyone thought we were crazy.

Some thought I was pregnant… which was even crazier.

But 39 years later here we are.

Our wedding took place at a Justice of the Peace office during a raging N’Or East blizzard. We were staying with his mother on the Island at the time and had to take a boat to the mainland in the storm. I wore a pink cashmere sweater and dove grey slacks with high heeled boots. There was no dress, no cake, no reception, no gifts. We had 3 witnesses. My mother, his mother and his step father. There was a champagne brunch at a lovely waterfront restaurant… period. We had to leave the next day and drive to North Carolina so he could report back to base.

I was never one of those young girls who dreamt of big fancy weddings. I’ve been to many of them that cost more than our first home, and you know what? Every single one of those couples is divorced. For me, the ceremony isn’t the important part. It’s the love and commitment that mean something.

We may not have an engraved sterling silver turkey baster or a drunken video of Uncle Ted giving a toast….. but we’re still in love and still happily married almost four decades later.

I’d say that’s a fair trade.

How about you…

What would you change about your wedding?

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26 thoughts on “Let’s play.”

  1. If I had my druthers, I’d have had a small wedding like yours….but my wife-to-be, who lived in another city where she had many relatives, “marched” to her mother’s wish for a big church wedding, and I went along for the “bride.”.
    I have nothing to add except this quote from an anonymous wit:

    “A wedding is a ceremony at which a woman acquires another mind of her own.”

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  2. Wow, that is a fast romance! Timing, I guess and devotion to the cause! We married and were both hard at work. I went to teach my adult class full of foreigners learning English at a community college and mentioned to them that after class, I was heading down to Ybor City waiting in a coffee shop and then on way to be married in a civil service. I remember the student from Venezuela looked at my dress and said, “You look beautiful” and then to the others, she is not kidding. This is for real. For real, we have been married over 2 decades but we were together for more than a year before marriage. Timing and all combined well.

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  4. Nothing, I also got married at the Justice of The Peace and I was pregnant. I wore a lilac maternity dress. We married on the 3th of February and my son was born on the 17th. And yet in spite of my marriage ending in divorce, I wouldn’t change a thing. I have three wonderful boys that I raised entirely on my own who are good, hard working, responsible men. And as much as I hate to say it my stupid ex gave me the very best of him in my boys. Weird twist to his second marriage, he got married on exactly the same day as we did, 6 years later. I mentioned this to his second wife once because we happened to work together in the same university. Lets just say, she wasn’t too pleased to find out about that little detail…lol.

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    1. I forgot to mention, kudos to you and the hubs for a long and successful marriage! Six days knowing each other and 39 years, a basement full of antique crap, one new driveway, a family of chuckers, one red menace and His Lordship, and still going strong, that’s incredible!

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  7. My anxiety ran high befire the wedding so I did all the planning and she was fine with that. Had I been taking a med then I would have made better decisions specifically in regards to the guest list. For reasons unknown I felt the need to invite coworkers…our wedding was relatively cheaper at 5K but I just have regrers on the guest list if anything. Married 10 together 13.

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  10. I love your love story! It’s so cool…and yes, i would have also thought you were both crazy for doing that so quickly. But who’s the crazy one now? (ok, all of us!) Thirty-nine years is nothing short of a feat.

    I would have had fewer people at our wedding. It wasn’t lavish at all, ceremony at the church, a reception at the Elks Lodge because that was what we could afford. But we had TOO many people. My in-laws wanted every one of their friends there.
    Besides that, it was a great day and a big ass party for our friends.

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