Stone garden border project… day 1, disagreement 1.

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Work began on the perennial bed stone border recently… though not without incident.

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The existing bed measured 10×20… and when I first discussed the project with my husband I told him I wanted to expand it by at least 4 feet due to the apple tree that took up residence a decade ago. He heard me, but clearly didn’t care.

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Because when I looked outside the other day and saw him staking off level lines at the edge of the dirt… I said something.

Big mistake.

Huge.

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He heatedly explained the stone needed to be laid on flat earth and if I wanted him to do it, they would be laid inside the bed border. Period. End of discussion. Numerous hours of anger to follow.

Ladies? Never doubt the existence of male menopausal mood swings. They’re real.

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His way means I lose a good foot on every side, making my garden bed 4 foot smaller instead of larger. Not what I wanted. Not what I’d planned.

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But apparently what I’m getting.

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It’s hard to argue when I’m clearly not the one doing the majority of work. And I’m sure it will be lovely when completed…

But it would be nice if just once, we could come to an agreement without acrimony.

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20 thoughts on “Stone garden border project… day 1, disagreement 1.”

  1. Acrimony – matrimony – not a lot of difference there. But, I’m sure the wall and garden will look nice. It looks like it’s going to have a nice footprint. I’m not just saying that because I’m male.

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  2. Husbands are the braun behind our brains.
    I feel for ya. I have mastered the art of keeping my big fat mouth shut. Well, sometimes.
    Doesn’t do any good and doesn’t change anything. Hubby doing the work, it gets done his way….one project STILL in the works…(only been 8 months)…and 500 more to do.
    If I had a hammer……(someone should write a song)

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    1. People laugh about it, but it stands to reason if women losing estrogen causes mood swings, then men losing testosterone will do the same. And believe me when I tell you, I’m living it.

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  3. We just had the landscapers out yesterday for a bid and, amazingly, the husband and I did not come to blows over it. However, we are having a party/fundraiser next month, the details of which have already caused small fireworks that portend worse arguments to come, so I know where you’re coming from.

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