There’s a restaurant under the black awning in this corner building in downtown Augusta.
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It’s a place my husband continually thinks he likes, but really doesn’t.
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I love that their beer is tapped in an old copper still.
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And while the pomegranate margarita was killer, I admit their version of hushpuppies was not.
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We’ve been here a few times and because I enjoy barbecue, I liked my meal.
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Half a dry rubbed chicken, sweet potato fries, slaw and jalapeño cornbread.
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My husband on the other hand complained his (very tender and flavorful) ribs didn’t have enough meat, his beans weren’t New England style, his slaw was too dry and his cornbread too spicy.
He doesn’t really like barbecue, but always thinks he does… no matter how many times I tell him he won’t be pleased.
Short memory, or stubbornness? Either way it will probably be another year before he suggests going out for barbecue again.
We would have done it sooner, but had to wait 3 days for the license.
True story.
Really.
Our “wedding” was at a town hall, performed by a Justice of the Peace. It took place in January, in Maine, during a N’Or Easter. We had to take a boat across the bay and schlepp up a ramp and across a pier in the frigid blowing snow. If memory serves, the temperature was 2 degrees. Instead of a gown, I wore dress slacks, a cashmere sweater and fancy boots. Instead of guests, we had 3 family witnesses. There was no reception, no photographer, no band, no caterer. My guy was on leave from the Marine Corps and after the ceremony we had to jump in the car for a thousand mile trip south to get him back to base on time.
Total cost?
$35, plus tip to the JOP.
That was 41 years ago.
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A friend of mine spent over $50,000 for her elaborate destination wedding. The dress was from Paris, the flowers were flown in from a trendy designer in New York, the bridesmaid’s gifts were from Tiffany.
They were divorced 2 years later.
Make of that what you will.
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It’s about love and commitment, not what you spend.
Bring an avid collector, one of my guy’s favorite programs is Antiques Roadshow. He watches it religiously, envious of all the people who clean out their attics and find priceless treasure.
While I watch the show and see hundreds of people standing in endless lines in the hot sun, clutching and dragging cumbersome objects, inching forward in slow motion for a mind boggling number of tedious hours, just to spend two minutes with an appraiser who tells them grandma’s objet d’art is a fake…
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My husband sees the lucky 6 out of 6,000 people who have something worthy and simply knows that could be him.
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So when I saw this article in a local paper…
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I decided to give him the chance to be lucky.
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After a bit of research I discovered you don’t pay for tickets, they’re free. The catch is… the only way to get them is to enter a sweepstakes. You sign up, submit your name (one per household) and hope they pick you.
So that’s what I did.
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And since my husband’s birthday is right around the bend, I printed that announcement out and put it in a wrapped gift box.
My fingers are crossed they pick our name… not because I want to stand in line for all those bunion busting hours, but because I love my guy and it would make him happy.
And hey, the blog fodder factor could be off the charts.
My husband is always on the road, always out and about. Since he’s newly retired and bored out of his mind? He runs errands. The other day he told me he was going to stop at the grocery store on the way home and asked if I wanted anything.
I requested one item… Panera’s Everything Bagels. Simple enough, but I made sure to describe them fully and wrote the name on a post it note because I’ve received a lot of items I didn’t want in the past by not being specific.
A few hours later, he came home with this.
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When he saw my face and realized that wasn’t what I’d asked for, he explained he ran into an old friend in the parking lot, talked for half an hour (shocking, I know) and forgot to take the post it into the store with him… but he remembered I said it has seeds on the top.
He tried.
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The next day he had a dentist appointment and stopped at the grocery store afterwards.
He came home with this:
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Better – they were bagels, and the right brand but plain not everything.
He tried.
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A few days after that I’d forgotten I even wanted bagels, but he came home from breakfast with this :
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Right brand, right seasoning, wrong shape.
Bless his heart… you should have seen his face when he realized that wasn’t quite right either. “I give up” he said.
My husband’s television viewing habits are usually limited to news, westerns and classic cinema but every once in a while I’ll walk by and be surprised.
And every rarer once in a while my husband has to admit it.
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He’d been out front struggling with those silly balustrades popping in and out of the top rail for an hour on the second frustrating day when I said “Why don’t we just tape them in place until we get them lined up?”
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He grumbled and swore it wouldn’t work, but ya know what?
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It was the perfect solution.
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Time consuming, yes.
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But we lined those babies up and snapped that top rail on smooth as butter.
The hardest part was him admitting it was my idea.
Remember the large, oh so heavy batch of stone my husband piled on the barn porch?
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The one I told him was too heavy to put in one place and might damage the frame?
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Yeah.
Serious sagging that had to be propped up.
Why do men neverlisten? Why…
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Work continues… and the more stone that’s affixed to the house, the less weight and possibility of caving in the barn porch.
I call that a win.
Progress is slow but steady.
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Question… what do we think of the color combination of stone and composite decking?
When this remodel started, I chose decking that would blend with the vinyl siding. It looks very grey in photos but is actually striated with beige-y clay.
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It had already been delivered by the time the husband decided to replace the siding with stone. Special order, no return…. so I’m talking myself into it blending.
What say you?
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Color coordinated or not, it’s what we’ve got.
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And standing on the lawn I’m beginning to get an idea of what it will look like when complete.
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While choking on masonry dust that is.
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