The blogging life.


I had lunch with a friend the other day and we were in the middle of an epic catch up session when I mentioned I’d found a new blog site and was really enjoying it.

Me –  “It’s a large platform with lots of amazing writers.”

Her –  “Blogging?  Yeah… I’ve never understood the appeal.”

Me –




Her –  “It seems so totally self absorbed. I mean, what do you blog about?”

Me –   *sputtering*  *turning red*


( I may have screamed. I’m not sure.)

But it got me thinking, what do I blog about? Right now, it’s whatever nonsense is floating around in my head and needs to get out. That long fuzz covered blue thingy in the back of the fridge that may or may not have started life as a pickle? Sure! The old lady at Goodwill who had a vibrator in her cart because she thought it was a portable hand blender? Absolutely! But it wasn’t always that way.

No… back in the early days of Yahoo 360 and Multiply, it was personal.  I ranted about family, and relationships, and mother in laws from Hell. I had a small community of close friends who knew (almost) everything that was happening in my life. And then I got burned. I was posting about a particularly horrid SIL… okay, I may have called her  a hag. But she was. And still is. And crikey… she wasn’t supposed to be reading it! But she did and ….



Yeah, the proverbial excrement hit the rotating blade.

See…. I’ve always kept my blogging life and real life separate. The husband is an uber-private person and hates it if I tell my best friend anything… no less people on line that we’ve never actually met. So what did the hag do? She found my online blog presence, read every single post I’d ever made and left a seriously hateful comment on the last one. (At 3:30 in the morning no less. Clearly it was a riveting read.) And no… we haven’t spoken since. That was 8 years ago.

So I shut it down. No more public access, no more personal details.

And then it became a “thing” in our marriage. You know,  the “things”.  Those topics that no matter how many years you spend together, they’ll always cause friction. I mean geesh, I wasn’t spilling racy secrets from the bedroom….. and I won’t no matter how much you beg me.  (You’re welcome.) …. I was joking about the crap he accumulates in the cellar! Where’s the harm in that? But I got tired of the snide, “Oh, I suppose you’re going to blog about that now” comments every time something happened, so after my first site died a slow death?  I told him I was done blogging.

But I wasn’t.

So yes…. you lot are my guilty, secret pleasure. (How pathetic is that? Nothing dark and twisted, just you. Sigh…)



There, I said it.

I blog on the down low. And I keep it light… because for me, it’s always been about entertainment. I know there are a lot of inspirational blogs about overcoming hardships, heartfelt blogs about love and loss, fashion blogs, cooking blogs, gardening blogs…. and I enjoy them all. Even the occasional blog about running. (Do you have any idea how many of them there are? What’s wrong with people? Don’t they own comfortable chairs…?)  I mean… I’m diverse damn it! I can read about other people running even if I personally feel like  –




That’s the wonderful thing about blogging! It’s unique to each and every person who does it…. and if you’re lucky enough to find bloggers of similar interests and styles?  Who laugh with you.. and occasionally at you?

You’ve found your tribe.

For me, they’re usually snarky, smart mouthed, fringe dwellers who are just a little bit bent. Because… well, I’ve been told I’m a little hard to take.



Shocking, I know.

But my husband has always felt the need to warn his co workers about me before we meet, so there must be something to it. I may look sweet, but my mouth does tend to get me in trouble when it gets going. And if I’m feeling comfortable enough around you to let the crazy out?


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You’re my people.


51 thoughts on “The blogging life.”

  1. Your friend is right . . . blogging CAN BE totally self-absorbed crap. Just like conversations with the same people. Talking/Blogging just to hear themselves talk/blog. Saying something because they want to say something . . . not because they have something to say.

    BUT blogging can also be used to educate, entertain, amuse, shine a spotlight on others, highlight something fun, share a smile, etc.

    It’s early days yet, but it seems that you fall in the 2nd camp.

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  2. I’m honored to be one of your people, even if I may be considered a snarky, smart-mouthed fringe dweller who’s just a little bit bent. I also tend to write on the sly – usually on days when hubby isn’t home looking over my shoulder, although I would never, ever write anything negative about him or his family. He knows I blog, but isn’t fond of the whole idea. Although I did talk him into meeting one of my blogging colleagues for a luncheon a couple of years back, and he did enjoy it. Despite that, he recently had the audacity to say to me, “But I don’t know what a blog is …” He may have been joking, but the comment definitely did not go over well. We’ve since come to peaceful terms again.

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    1. It’s silly, but my husband also has a jealous streak a mile wide and I think blogging lights a flame under those feelings as well. He’s a wonderful man and I love him dearly… so if that’s the way it is, that’s the way it is. And I definitely learned my lesson on writing about family… but damn. They were such a rich source of blog fodder!

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  3. Oh mannnnn every anonymous blogger’s worst nightmare (the SIL situation)!! It’s definitely tricky being ‘public’ and feeling like there’s little you can say (when your boss / neighbor / father are reading every word)…but it’s fantastic practice if you ever want to be a mediator. As for the selfishness of blogging, a) OKAY FINE YES, it’s true, but, b) it’s a helluva lot better than taking to Facebook with every half-baked thought/rant, amirite?! This stuff takes EFFORT! And rum. Lots of rum.

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    1. I have to say it’s the one thing I miss about my last blog site, they had a setting where you could post to friends only and keep it a bit private. That came in handy on those days when you just needed to explode. As for FB, it’s great to post vacay shots and find long lost friends…. but there’s no depth. And wayyy too much political hatred. And probably? Not nearly enough rum.

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  4. I’ve been blogging for about 15 years and there is only one subject I don’t get into and that is my sex life–because I don’t want people to get jealous and wind up depressed about theirs!!
    I don’t have to answer to anyone which is why my life–the bad, good and mundane are all in my blogs.
    I tell people if they want to know me they can buy my book “Letting It All Hang Out” (there I get into–a bit–about my sex life!) or read my blogs!

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  5. I don’t know whether or not I’m one of your people (or even more than one, since sometimes I don’t feel like myself), but I like your style….and your substance ain’t bad either (I stole that joke from a long dead comedian — it was a real killer, back in the day).

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      1. Thanks for your reply. I had already clicked on “Follow” (your blog), and as for blocking you, I wouldn’t know how to do that even if I wanted to because, technology-wise, I’m a dunce (the only reason I didn’t put “dunce” in caps is that I can’t find my dunce cap). 😦

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  6. Gosh, I remember the old days – Geocities, Blogspot. I used to blog much crazier stuff than I do now–if you can imagine that. Now I’m a little crazy, but everything has to go through management first (JoJo, the missus). She rarely censors me, but when she does, it’s a firm “HELL NO!” LOL

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  7. I’m happy I found you. I started blogging to help people deal with divorce and navigate through dating but its evolving as each day, week goes by. I laugh at myself all the time and i encourage others to do the same. lol


  8. Absolutely!
    There are things that went into a closed audience blog that don’t go into this public one. And as the kids get older, I guard their information more, but I still tell it like it is.
    My husband is more of a tv person and I am more of a readery person. It’s not like I don’t watch tv and he doesn’t read, but more of an opposite ratio.
    I have a friend, one of my dearest, who refers to me as “fucking blogger” because she does not like blogs, not even mine, and she doesn’t read them, not even mine, and the worst thing to say to her is, “Well I put it in my blog!” LOL 😀
    I truly, truly, do not want to call or text the dozen people I love most in the world and talk about what’s in the blog. Ya feel? Ya wanna know? Read the blog. That way, when I call them, I can’t listen to them, which is the introvert’s dream.
    Also, Rando Weirdo Blogs Are My Fave! What’ll it be today? Nice.

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    1. I’m a reader as well. The fact that I have to do it while old John Wayne movies drone on in the background is a testament to how much I love my husband.
      And I don’t know, I think “fucking blogger” might be an honorific title. Wear it proudly!

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  9. This is such a great post. It popped up in my feed, I reread and as I was getting ready to like it I realized I had liked it already. Not sure if I had commented since I couldn’t be bothered with scrolling through all of your 47 comments (so jealous 😁) to check but I just had to say (maybe again) how much I enjoyed this post. Love it!!!

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  10. This is funny. I remember that I published a few things on my blog about one of the adult stepchildren relocating here and the expectations of his father, my husband. Little did I think husband might read them and join me on wordpress but he did and he understood. I am a pretty easy going person but I hate hypocrisy of any type. I bite my tongue often. Thanks for posting this.

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      1. Rivergirl, I think I learned this from you! Although husband and I agree about family often, it is never a good idea to post the absolute truth, such as it may be, family is family. I know I am not perfect, so somewhat nonsense it shall be. I am thinking next time: shoes. Same goes for job, too many questions, not good. Thanks.

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  11. Even though hypocrisy bothers me, sometimes we have no choice but to deal with it and sometimes I just follow bloggers and people on facebook because I am dealing with it, if you know what I mean. Thanks for listening.

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